Laying the foundation in the beginning is the first step to a successful relationship. Foundations based on stability offer a rewarding, long-lasting relationship, while unstable foundations lead to breakups. Therapy is good, but if you can sit down and talk through your own problems this is the best solution and it will save you money. Talking is the mark of eliminating problems, while frustration comes from those who cannot form the skills to communicate.
Incompatibility can lead to breakup, thus weighing out your relationship vigilantly before beginning a relationship can prevent disaster. If you are already involved in an unhappy relationship more than likely, you will need to evaluate the compatibilities. You do have the options of working through the incompatibilities or getting out.
Compatibility extends to family history. If you are suffering problems due to family quarrels, the ride gets strenuous. Families that tend to like the person their child is with, is less likely to give you problems. Unhappy relationships are painful when families butt into your business frequently. Many persons who begin relationships and have been with their mate for sometime may find that neither party is compatible. The relationship can still work if the two of you communicate and comprise a plan that both can agree on. Read and learn the steps in good relationships by buying books that offer a good strategy for the incompatible couples.
Many times people commit to relationships with the idea that they can change the other person later. This is not good! Either you like whom you meet, or you do not. No one can change another human being, the person must have the desire to change him or her self, and the first step to change is acceptance and then willingness to make the changes.
One should be skeptical of those who vow to change for you. Often the promises are not met, or the person has “hidden terrors” that could be forced onto you later.
If you are a dreamer, you may look at your mate as a fantasy. This is not good either. You lose the benefits by not getting to know the person you have mated with or you wake up from your dream and find that you made a serious mistake.
The chief focus to keep in mind is to communication, spend quality time, stay focused, and lay a good foundation for your relationship; keep it honest and learn to trust one another, with unselfish motives.
Selfishness has lead to various problems, including adultery, murder, fornication, theft, and so forth. Thus, selfish is one of the leading causes of breakups in relationships and marriage.
As you can see, sharing plays a large part in love and relationships. When two people share, they are giving something to the other that leaves a lasting feeling of joy and love. Two people working together without selfishness often build a relationship on solid grounds, and often endure through tribulations, joyous moments, and so forth. Relationships built on solid grounds rarely fall apart when troubles come their way. Thus, enhance your unhappy relationship, or get out!