Are you having some problems in your relationship, and feel you can use some relationship problem advice

Are you having some problems in your relationship, and feel you can use some relationship problem advice? Have you already broken up and want to make up? There are many reasons why there can be problems in a relationship: unfaithfulness, lying, fighting, trust issues, and so forth. But, in spite of it all, you want to work it out? Good news-it is possible, and it’s not too late. What I have discovered is that under all of the “surface problems,” there are deeper issues that need addressed to take care of the surface problems.

Let me start with a personal story. A few years ago, my husband and I went through a rut in our marriage. He was working full time and going to school full time, and I was working from home and taking care of our toddler and newborn baby. Things were hard for both of us, and we each got so focused on our own personal tasks, that we all but forgot about each other, and us as a couple. It got to the point where we were almost roommates, and I was a single mom. I was talking to a friend about it one day, and she suggested setting aside one hour that night that just he and I talked, after the kids were in bed, we put everything aside and talked. It was the first time we had done that in a long time. I told him everything that was going on and how I felt, and he eventually did the same.

We both said the same things were bothering us, and I have come to realize that in all relationships, there are three important factors, yet sometimes forgot about or taken for granted: communication, respect and appreciation for the other person.

You may be thinking, this is not what you were thinking about when you wanted relationship problem advice, but it is true. These three things seem so simple, yet we completely neglect them, perhaps because they seem so simple to think about in a relationship.

Communication with each other is important to any relationship. I am not talking about a “Hey, how are you?” “Good” when you walk in the door and go about your life. I am talking about actually communicating and talking with your partner longer than 5 minutes. When you and your partner have good communication, you are better able to know what your partner wants and they can have a better idea of what you want.

Respect and Appreciation for your partner is so important. If your partner does not feel like they are respected or appreciated for what they do, they will close up and sooner or later, find it elsewhere. A simple “thank you” for whatever they might have done is a huge affirmation for them that they are appreciated and it goes a long way. I have found the more I say “thank you” to my husband for even taking the trash out, the more willing he is to do things, and he even does some stuff without being asked anymore and the same goes for me as well.

As part of your relationship problem advice, it is also important to remember that you can do this change on your own. You can start the change and your partner will eventually turn around.

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