Breakup is devastating, and a bad breakup is probably one of the most devastating thing that can happen to anyone

Breakup is devastating, and a bad breakup is probably one of the most devastating thing that can happen to anyone. One who had experienced a bad breakup tend to act in ways that are different from how they would normally act, usually resulting in committing careless mistakes in the course of trying to get their ex back. Here are three common mistakes done under such circumstance.

1. Trying to catch your ex’s attention. Yes, you meant well. It was bona fide after all, with no mala fide involved. Your immediate task is to come out with an amicable solution, to heal what is broken and make your methods work but seriously, when you frequently pop up in front of your ex and plead for their help, your actions are just portraying you as a weak, desperate person and nothing else.

2. Drunk dialing. One often lose full control of themselves when overpowered by depression. This usually happens when a person fails to escape from their sadness under the aid of alcohol. They will then turn to drunk dialing to get them out of the state of loneliness by listening to their ex’s voice again.

With fingers on autopilot, one will dial their ex’s number and then to realize that they have nothing to say, so they ended up saying everything. At the same time. When you recall, you will realize that this is a really stupid thing to do as it puts you in a weak position. But of course, you would have failed to realize the consequence when you did it.

3. Spamming your ex with test messages, calls or emails. You may not be physically facing your ex all the time (most probably due to the fact that he would be avoiding you) but you would be competing for his attention through text message terrorism.

You will send him one text message after another, or one email after another, or one call after another, for no apparent reason. In other words, you are spamming your ex. Over-frequent contact is not attractive at all. It is just going to make your ex find you annoying and make him feel more keen to stay away from you.

Instead of calling or emailing your ex, you should ensure that you follow the so called “no contact” rules in order to prevent yourself from committing these mistakes.

At first it may seem hard and impossible to not to contact your ex because you are so used to having him around, it is in fact one of the best ways to help you cope.

This is really beneficial in many ways, one of them being giving both of you time to regroup.

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