If you have recently broken up with your boyfriend/girlfriend you are probably asking yourself “how can i go about getting back my ex

If you have recently broken up with your boyfriend/girlfriend you are probably asking yourself “how can I go about getting back my ex?” You are probably in a state of panic and want to get back with your ex immediately.

You are probably finding yourself falling into a emotionally distressed and anxious state. Your first instinct is to find out what went wrong. You are probably wondering what you can do to patch things up with your ex but you don’t know where to start. Should you keep calling, sending text messages or emailing your ex. Should you resort to spying. Or, should you plead and beg for him/her to get back together with you. Regrettably, resorting to these methods will only further irritate your ex and end up pushing him/her away even more.

At this point, what you really need to do is be strong and maintain a rational state of mind. Don’t do anything frantic. Most importantly do not contact your ex. However, when you start wondering “how can I go about getting back my ex?” You can follow the three step approach below.

Step 1. Agree to the Break Up

This is where you are going to have to be emotionally strong and use some reverse psychology. Explain to your ex that you accept the break up and that you both should move on. The process of “moving on” by itself will alleviate a lot stress. Through out this period your ex will think about the relationship. If he/she still wants to be with you, it will happen.

Step 2. Do Not Call Your Ex

Do not contact your ex right after the break up. You will both need a cooling off period of a month or two. This may be counter intuitive, but this is a critical step. They are probably expecting you to contact them. So Don?t. Do not attempt to talk to your ex boyfriend/girlfriend right after the break up. By ceasing communication you will be sending a message that you are just fine and have moved on. This should accelerate his/her thinking about the relationship and give them a chance to evaluate their true feelings for you.

Step 3. Planning Ahead for a Meeting with Your Ex

Once the fog of war clears a month or two later, it is safe to start planning your approach for a meeting with your ex. Experts say it is vitally important that you plan out the first meeting after the break up. That is, when and where you will meet. And most importantly what you will say. If you say the wrong thing you will blow it. Game over!

The process of getting back with an ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend is not an exact science. However, if you follow a basic strategy such as this, you will greatly improve your chances of reconciliation. Good Luck.

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