Being confident is the most important element in any social interaction

Being confident is the most important element in any social interaction. It is something that girls can easily pick up on, and it is hands down the best way to get them attracted. Unfortunately, confidence is something that you build up over years, through an extensive series of positive experiences and outcomes.

Luckily for you, there are certain things you can do to give the impression that you are naturally confident and relaxed around women even if you haven’t built it up since childhood.

There is also a “fake it ‘til you make it” dynamic working for you. The more you exhibit these traits, the more they will become a part of you, and you will start feeling inherently more confident.

It will make you feel unnatural at first, because these are behaviors that you are not used to. But guess what? Guys who are good with girls don’t even think about this stuff, and soon enough you won’t have to either.

But remember: you want to be confident, not arrogant or cocky.

1. Assume Attraction: When you talk to a girl for the first time, you should assume she is already attracted to you. Don’t just pretend to believe it. Believe it. It will make everything you do and say much more congruent. Confident guys assume every girl is already attracted to them.

2. Body Language: Use slow gestures when you talk to her. Don’t flail your arms around. Don’t be fidgety, even if you’re nervous. It may take some time to become a subconscious habit, but you need to be self?conscious about your movements at the beginning. When someone says something to you, don’t whip your head around to look at them. Use slow, deliberate gestures.

When you walk, keep your shoulders back and your head up. Don’t stare at the ground. Don’t be afraid to make eye contact with people around you (and when you do make eye contact, don’t immediately look down? that is a sign of submission).

Don’t be afraid to take up space. Stand with your feet about a foot?and?a?half apart. Even when you sit down, you should make sure that you are taking up as much space as you need to be comfortable.

Think “alpha male.”

3. Tonality: Similarly, when you speak, you need to talk slowly and deliberately. Assume they are already interested in hearing what you have to say.

Project your voice, but don’t yell.

When you make statements, don’t ask if she agrees. Don’t say “right?” or “you know?” It makes you seem insecure.

At the same time, you should not be treating any interaction with a girl like it’s a business meeting (except for, you know, if it is a business meeting). It’s fun, so keep it light. Laugh, but not at your own jokes. You’re jokes only require a smirk.

If she asks you a question, don’t answer it too quickly, and don’t offer more information than is necessary.

Never overcompensate for your insecurities or shortcomings.

Once you begin to absorb these elements as part of your essence, girls will start to pick up on it. It may take days, weeks or even months for the awkwardness to go away. But it will, and you’ll stop having to force these behaviors.

These are the bare essentials that should get you started thinking like a guy whose natural confidence automatically attracts women.

Remember: if you change how you think, you’ll change how she thinks about you.

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